Embracing failure probably sounds odd to you, but it’s really not. It’s not to me, and I’m happy to say that this time last year I felt like a complete failure. But I’m ok with that. My business today looks TOTALLY different to what it was.
So, you’re going to find out why you need to learn how to accept and embrace failure if you want to achieve anything in life & your business….
1. Failure teaches you things that even success can’t
One of the best teachers in life is failure. It forces you to take a step back to look at yourself, and your surroundings, your business in an entirely different light. Things you may not have known before will come rushing to the surface, and you’ll be surprised why you didn’t think of that previously.
Successful people (whatever that is) get to live the life they’ve always wanted. They worked hard to be where they’re at. But, before they got to that point, they probably failed in one or more ways. And I can assure you that when they did, they learned from their mistakes. Myself included!
2. Failure makes you stronger and more resilient
The more times you fail, the stronger and more resilient you become. You feel like you can’t go any lower, and the only way to is up. That kind of mentality is just plain awesome, it’s the kind of mindset successful people have.
How far lower can you go if you’ve already reached the lowest point? Believe me when I say this, when you embrace failure, expect to come out stronger in the end.
3. Failure teaches you new opportunities
When you fail, you hit an invisible wall. You can’t go beyond that wall. So what do you do?
You go exploring, of course. If you’re not afraid of failure, you can easily find new opportunities, new ways to knock down that wall and reach your destination.
You don’t go sulking in the corner, feeling sorry for yourself. No, that’s not what winners do.
4. Failure forces you to think outside the box
If you really want to succeed at something, and you can’t seem to go beyond your failure, you need to start thinking outside the box. What’s in the theoretical box won’t help you succeed, so you’re forced to look elsewhere.
That is the beauty of embracing failure & where others see only the four walls of their ‘box’, those who don’t fear failure will find a way out. Needless to say, those that do manage to think outside the box pave a clearer path towards success.
See? and this is exactly why I always tell my clients to never ever compare your success (or lack of) to someone else’s. You have no idea what they’ve been through to get them where they are now.
What matters is how you pave your way to success….your way.
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Yep I wouldn’t have believed it either! But I did. It’s 100% true!
When my business coach posted in our Mastermind group this morning…“Kelly you need to brag you have called in 20 brand flipping new soul clients this month”
My immediate reaction was, huh? what? me? na….
But I bloody did!!! I did call in 20 soul clients this month.
By being totally clear of WHO, WHAT and WHY I wanted them… that’s how!
Oh but if you had told me back in January what I wanted, I would have said go back to a ‘real job’. I’ve had enough. After 10 years I was ready to jack it all in. I had loads of clients, whom I loved, but I just lost my mojo. I lost my personality.
Probably from recurring illnesses, yep the universe giving me repeating lessons… I didn’t know why at the time. Why was I ill constantly? Why was I feeling miserable even though I was working with some truly inspirational people?
I don’t know. Hell, I didn’t know anything anymore. One thing that stopped me going back to a ‘proper job’ was that I still had this DESIRE to succeed. I had invested SO much time and tears into my business that I wasn’t going to go back to making someone else rich. Besides, I recon I’m pretty much unemployable these days.
So fast forward to June 2017 (not THAT long ago). I was struck down yet again with the most random illness and it totally floored me. I was unable to sit at my desk, I was unable to hold my phone, I couldn’t even brush my own hair for god sake! I later learned that I had two slipped disks in my neck. 37 flipping 7 and I’ve got two slipped disks!! HOW? I just woke up one morning and I had this stiff neck that got worse. Just like that….
“I woke up like this”
OK UNIVERSE WHAT ARE YOU TELLING ME?
Whatever it was I had seriously had enough.
Now drugged up to the max on pain killers I had to take a step back. We had a holiday booked for mid July, jetting off to Spain with my husband and my two boys. I didn’t even know if I was able to fly!
Sparing you the juicy details I did get on that flight. With my husband and my two boys.
Now next you wouldn’t believe it…my husband was hit with the worst stomach flu ever. For the entire 7 days he was in bed. Mid 40s celcius, Spains heatwave…he was laid up with a raging temp and couldn’t keep anything in or down.
So it was up to me with my boys to holiday. All they wanted to do was play in the pool. I just read and read and watched them have fun. Oh the simple things.
I started reading a book, THE book. I never read books. I ain’t got time for that. I did though..the book was called
“How To Be F*cking Awesome” by Dan Meredith. I’ll let you buy that and when you’ve read it you’ll know why.
A whole week of reading, relaxation (I didn’t take the laptop), work was out of the question. I started to get clarity, a new vision, a real purpose to my business, my values, me.
THIS WAS MY LESSON!
I needed to slow down, get clarity, understand what I really want, who I really want to work with.
And you know what, since I cleared my mind of ‘stuff’ stepped back from my business, I came back from that holiday as a totally different person! I’ve joined a mastermind, I’ve launched my brand new Tech Angel Club, I’ve grown a Facebook group of nearly 400 engaging amazing female entrepreneurs.
Stuff the courses that promise the world, no more wasting money. Back to basics. Understand me, understand my business, understand my soul clients.
If you’re feeling the same, lost, confused, brain full of ‘stuff’ I advise you to take time away from your business. Like 100% business free time. 100% step away.
Read books, journal, do what ever you need, but detox yourself from your business. Scary. I know…..
You see, I don’t have a big list, I don’t run massive Facebook ads, I don’t even do that many live streams.
What I DO do though is show up in my business every single day, I post content that resonates with my soul clients, this allows me to sell gracefully…..and this is how I’ve called in 20 new clients in the last 30 days.
Let me know if any of this resonates with you by leaving a comment below.
Today I’ve had to sort out yet another client who’s had her membership plugin revoked because she wasn’t using the correct licence.
She had a web developer install and set it up for her, and the developers of the plugin realised that the web designer had been using a single licence on multiple sites… This meant that unless she purchased the whole licence her membership site wouldn’t work and can’t access any of the members details. Which is really inconvenient, plus she thought she had already paid for this! Why should she pay again?
So this is just a quick message to everyone, make sure you have the correct licence on any product/plugin you’re using. Double check with your web developer to make sure they have the correct licence purchased if they’re using it for multiple clients.
This is your money you’re spending, and your money you’re losing when things go wrong….
We’ve now decided that it would be cheaper for me to delete the plugin and go ahead and use WP Emember (which as you know is my fave). Why? Because it’s cheaper for me to set it up that it would for her to buy the licence fee. Plus, there’s no ongoing re-occuring fees with WPEmember like there is with the plugin she’s using (no names mentioned…)
If you would like to know more about your membership options, please feel free to send me an email, or sign up for my freebie at www.membershipmoneymaker.co.uk
When you’re self employed and working from home, staying motivated can be tough. There’s no one cracking the whip and telling you how and when to do things, so the pressure is completely on you to make sure you meet those important deadlines.
How do you do that? Follow the 5 tips that follow, and watch the changes.
Maintain a Positive Attitude
Let’s realize that life is only 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. We’re responsible for our own actions and attitudes, and changing them when appropriate. When you’re around people/things that are uplifting and positive, you feel that way. You have more confidence in yourself, and know you can change whatever needs changing. If you can make your workplace such a place you’ll find happier workers and higher production.
Leave Personal Troubles Home
Everyone has problems, but they don’t belong at work. Turn your attention and energy entirely to your on-the-job tasks. This will actually be good for you because you’ll get a mental break from your troubles. Try and move your office away from the main area of the house. My office is at the back of the house in the conservatory, so I can move away from any drama and close myself off to work without disruption.
Create Positive Affirmations
The reason for writing goals for your business is the same as creating positive affirmations on paper. What your eyes see and ears hear, your mind will believe. Try it! After you’ve written them down, read them aloud to yourself – and do it every morning when you get into work. You’ll be amazed at what happens. Come up with a set of new ones every month. Statements such as, “I’m an important and valuable person,” or “I know I’ll make good use of my time today.” Repeating them out loud everyday at a set time will help reinforce positive actions.
You can even write them on sticky notes and put them up around the office or on your computer screen, so when you start to wander you have those positive reminders to keep you on track.
Make Sure Break Times Are Really Break Times
This is an area where most people fall down. You become so intense about the project or situation you’re working on that you don’t ease up. Thinking that it’ll be solved in the next few seconds, and then you’ll get a cup of coffee can lead you right up to quitting time. Regularly adhering to a specified break schedule, releases the tension. If you work on a computer this is even a greater problem because before you realise it – you’ve been working in that same position for hours. The best answer to this is to set yourself a reminder on your appointment calendar for every 2 hours, and let the computer reminder chime send you the alert to move around.
Exercise, Exercise, Exercise
I know that lately it seems that “exercise” is the cure-all to every physical ailment or your love life, but despite that there is some truth to that ugly word. By “exercise” I don’t mean that you should go out and join a gym and spend your lunch-time, 3-days-a-week there working out. What is really beneficial and workable is that at those chiming alerts from your computer, get up and walk around your desk or room. Maybe go outside and get the mail and enjoy the sunlight, or just get up and do a few stretches. Concentrated, tense thinking – typing – plotting plans – or whatever your work, makes all those muscles tighten up and knot up. Then when we move we “ooh” and “ouch” because we’ve knotted up into a ball of tension. Periodic stretching, even at our desk, or just getting up and walking over to the window and getting a different view can help. One of the greatest disservice modern business décor has done to us, is making our offices pristine, sleek, unencumbered spaces. There is nothing more relaxing than getting up from your desk and walking over to a peaceful, serene, seascape or pastoral painting and just drinking it in visually. Momentarily transporting your mind out of work and into that place does wonders. A few good paintings and less shiny chrome in offices would benefit us all.
It only takes a little concentrated effort on our part to keep motivated and productive, which leads to success. I know you’re going to hate hearing this, but it’s true anyway – and that is, “WHEN LIFE GIVES YOUR LEMONS – MAKE LEMONADE!”